Love.....actually

There is this movie I love called "Love Actually"

Many people would call it a 'chick flick' however to me this is a movie that says so much about love in such an emotional yet funny way...I have it in my top ten list right up there with Visconti's 'Il Gattopardo' and Cubrick's '2001'.

(Not to mention the scene where Hugh Grant dances to the beat of 'Jump'!):)

What I love about it is that it catches (for me) the true (almost) essence of love.

Love is not always the way it is supposed to be, brings you into trouble, hurts you, makes you choose when you do not really want to choose, and true love, when faced with bravery will literally make you move mountains. Because love is actually......all around.

Everyone needs love. Anyone who says he doesn't need love is a crippled fool.

But how easy is it to find love? Well...not so easy.......

We have all been in relationships where we thought we were in love and later on we wonder how on earth we were ever with that person. We have all been in bad relationships, awful and hurtful etc etc.

But what about the good ones?

I have felt that I'm falling in love after only hours of meeting a person. And I'm not talking about wanting to rip the clothes of him and drag him into bed, (which, lets be honest , is not that difficult if you've had a couple of drinks - Kir Royal in my case) I'm talking about feeling this emotional and psychic connection that makes you feel so utterly not alone. The feeling that lifts the barriers of your lonely existence, even for a moment, and takes away the suffering of the loneliness of humanity.

Plato said that love , 'Eros' is the longing of the soul for its eternal ancient other half. Also lets not forget the ancient greek myth where Eros and Psyche are the two eternal lovers.

The truth is, love is the only thing that makes the emptiness bearrable.

And it is also so very difficult to find. Many time you think you re in love only to see in the end that you were mistaken.

For to be in love and to be loved back one has to like you and accept you for what you are. And then to care for you , for your spiritual growth. That is to me very important. To be willing (not necesserily able) to move mountains or at least to try for you. To be the eternal explorer.

I have a thing. I love looking at the sky. The night sky. To me the night sky, full of stars, is a never ending hope. Whenever I look upon it I am filled with awe and hope and happiness. And at those moments I do not feel alone.

If this is a feeling I can share with someone than I am in love truly. Very few times have I experienced this. Do not ask me if those were true.

Of course there is also the aspect of physical attraction. To get back to the ripping the clothes of him part.

Sex is very enjoyable:) But you can have sex without being in love. Enjoy it very much and not be in love. A chemistry! The alchemy of the body, what can I say....

But sex when you are in love, now that's something different . Not only a physical but also an emotional and spiritual experience. Its......heaven realy:) Or as close as you can get to it for a few moments in time.

And again it has to do with the lifting of the barriers of loneliness. We humans are so lonely creatures.

To love you have to first accept and love and appreciate yourself otherwise you are not capable of loving or be loved by anyone else. And then you have to throw out of your life everyone that hurts you, tries to hold you back, make you miserable, make a mockery of what you are, what you believe, what you love. Make a mockery of your life.

Love is NOT ABOUT MAKING COMPROMISES!!!!! (at least not always)

Love is about first of all be loved for who you are and love the other person for who they are. Oh and wanting to rip the clothes of each other is not bad either.

Love is fighting when there is no hope. Overcoming obstacles that you thought were impossible to overcome. Have music in your heart. Love makes you want to evolve and be better. Love is .....well.....its life.

As Anthony Hopkins so eloquently puts it in another of my favorite movies 'Meet Joe Black' :

"I want you to get swept away. I want you to levitate. I want you to sing with rapture, dance like a dervish.

I know it's a cornball thing but love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? I say fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart.


I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived. "

As I have said before : "Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind."